Getting What It Takes

Adventure, Romance

•    Besides night life, what are the other sources of pleasure in my life (leisure, relationships, work, etc.)? What are my goals in life, short term, medium term and long term? Am I realistic about the goals I set for myself?
•    How do I see my life in 5, 10, or 20 years? What are my dreams?
•    Do I feel that I always have to drink or take drugs every time I have sex? If yes, why?
•    Why do I feel I have to drink or take drugs when I go out? Do I always have to drink or take drugs when I go out?

Passion, Sex

•    What is sexuality to me? What is its importance in my life? What kind of intimacy am I looking for?
•    During sex, do I feel able to bring up the subject if my partner doesn’t do so first?
•    In what context and at what time do I feel tempted to take risks? For example, am I afraid of displeasing my partner? Do I go through a period of intense emotion? Am I intimidated by a type of partner or particular setting?
•    How do I feel when I take risks? Before, during, and after? How far am I personally willing to go in risk taking?

Health Matters

•    What is the impact of HIV on my way of living my sexuality? How am I going to live through the weeks of waiting for the results of an HIV test after having risky sex? Or, how to I expect to live through the side effects of PEP?
•    If I know that I have an STI, how would I live with the possibility of transmitting this infection to another person?
•    Who is responsible during risky sex? Is this responsibility individual or shared? Do we have a group responsibility with regard to HIV prevention in our communities?